Unconscious Consent
Learn to connect to your silent No underneath
the perpetual Yes
Did you know…
Consent does not exist in isolated events; it’s an enduring,
unconscious conversation. . .
Consent is more than just saying “no.” Rather, Consent is an intricate and complex experience we’re dancing with all the time. Consent is laced with our history and unconscious narratives formed by our culture, families, and past experiences that can leave us in a perpetual state of enduring many things we do not want to endure.
In my many years of private practice I have found that most women struggle to say no. It turns out this simple two letter word gets stuck in our throats, caught on our past, and stays silent within.
This often leads women feeling invisible, overwhelmed, resentful, and lost.
You don’t have to
do this alone
Examples of what our silent no can look like:
Manage everyone’s moods so no one gets upset
Volunteer at your kids’ school again because not enough people have
Swallowing a hurt feeling because naming it feels like too much
Becoming the family’s default caretaker, yet it costs you feeling invisible
Saying “no worries!” when there are worries
What classmates are saying
Depth Therapy with Jewel is
for you if. . .
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Here’s the truth—change does not mean we will no longer have pain, nor does it mean mitigating all of the hard things in life. Rather, real change means we have more tolerance and the ability to see more options. Real change means we can feel more and create more of what we want in life alongside the limitations and grief we carry.
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Something is causing you distress, and that something is what has prompted you to come to therapy. However, why you're coming is only the beginning — the starting point to understanding the difficulties causing you pain. In order to make shifts, we will need to explore beyond the surface to understand more about what got you to where you are. This will involve exploring places unbeknownst to both you and me. This can sometimes feel scary — to stumble upon places within yourself that you were unaware of. However, that's what I'm here for. I'm here to be your guide in helping you track, then piece together the painful and confusing parts of your life in a way that can hopefully give you more freedom, autonomy, and trust in yourself.
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You've had a lifetime of experiences that have led you to where you are today, so of course this process will need to take time. Our culture has unfortunately sold us on the myth that we should have everything quickly — 2-day shipping, fast food, a work culture that demands your immediate attention right now. We've been conditioned to think everything should happen this way.
Therapy will be the place to practice slowing down in order to tolerate the reality that real shifts in life are rarely quick. It's the difference between a poorly constructed home that goes up quickly versus a solid stone foundation that takes time, energy, and care to build. We want the solid foundation that will last longer and weather the elements in the long run
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A fully alive life isn't one without hard things. It still carries routine, dull moments, even pain. But it also holds space — for you, for your longing, for what you want your life to feel like. It means moving toward your dreams while making peace with your limits.
No perfect life exists, and I won't sell you one. What I do believe is that there is always more room to expand than we realize.
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In my 13 years of experience, I have found that anything less than weekly is simply catching up, which hardly allows for deeper work to take place. This is why I work with clients weekly — it's the container that makes the deeper work possible. Together we create a solid foundation for our relationship and build the depth and momentum needed to do this work. It's not surprising that research reflects this as well.
Ready to come up
for air?
Hello!
I’m Jewel!
Clinical Counselor . . .and so much more
While my credentials and experience are very important to my work, I believe it's not the letters behind my name or the number of trainings I've done that will ultimately be life-changing for you — it will be the connection we have.
When we meet, our time will be about you! And I know it's kinda funny, or strange even, to not know anything about a person you share your heart and soul with. So here's a little bit about me and what lights me up.
Before my career as a therapist, I was a photographer. Being creative is still very important to me, and now I get to do it on my own terms. I love getting lost in a book — my favorite is The Hobbit. I love it so much I celebrate Hobbit Day every year! I love the little things, like my first sip of coffee each morning and the way light illuminates leaves. I rarely get them, but gosh, do I love slow mornings. I am curious about a lot of things and love to learn. I often daydream about travel and have become a points and miles guru to fulfill that longing. I wish I were a gardener, yet that's just not in my wheelhouse.
I also know what it's like to be in your shoes. It's not easy to reach out for help, and it takes immense courage. I know that, and I see you — which is why I feel such great honor when people do. I may not be the right person for you, yet we won't know until we try. I'd love to hear from you!